Category: Let's talk
Well over the weekend a user posted a topic warning other female users about the conduct of a certain male user who spends his time sending private QN’s/mails to female users, and how they found this kind of attention disturbing. It struck me at the time that it seems to be that women get a lot more upset about receiving attention from guys than guys do about receiving attention from women. So it got me thinking, is it that girls generally don’t go round chasing after guys if they want their attention? Or is it that guys are just more open to advances from girls than girls are to the advances from guys. As a guy, have you ever received unwanted attention from a girl? And would you be happy to tell her to get lost if she went too far? Let’s equal the playing field here
Personally I think that girls aren't ones to come out and give a guy attention though it is happening more these days. I think most guys like atention from a girl. Is there a point when it goes to far? Of corse.
Well, the way I see it is who doesn't want attention, we all do, we all appreciate it, regardless of gender. And as we've seen lots of users both guys and girls pick user names that are eally intended for grabbing one's attention. Of course then one has to decide, if one gets attention, what kind of attention and in what quanteties that is wanted and it depends more on the person the attention comes from etc than your gender per say I think. I think guys and girls really are a lot more alike in many ways than people generally think.
Cheers
-B
I think it depends on the kind of attention you want to get and what you're actually getting from people. If you get on and some stranger starts making romantic advances at you when you discover you have nothing in common with the person or else you're already in a relationship, that's likely to give you the creeps. Other people might feel flattered by the same attention. Also, society believes in this idea that the man is the one to make advances and women aren't supposed to do that. Never got any explanation why, though, it just seems that is what is done and people follow it blindly.
so are guys more receptive then because if a woman does it it's out of the norm and therefore the guy feels that much more flattered by it?
I think girls are generally more shy or careful, and don't do the first step, no matter in which case. I would not dare doing things that some guys do to get girls' attention.
Dunno, I would guess some are and some aren't. Although I'm male I hesitate to generalize about the lot of us because I didn't spend a lot of my social time with other males exclusively, so I don't pretend to understand them. LOL!
Well I tend to be a very flirtatious woman and often let men know I am interested. If I don't get a positive response, then of course I back off. I appreciate men who back off if they try to start something with me and I let them know I am not interested.
I agree with Wildebrew that any person, regardless of gender, likes attention. Speaking for myself, I like it and feel flattered if someone is interested in meeting me. If that person does not have good intentions, he or she will be dumped. That's all.
If there's e.g. a girl on here who would keep on sending me private messages with negative intentions, I will simply place that person on ignore. I won't let someone else spoil the pudding for me.
Hm, of course I agree that attention is flattering, that's only human. If I didn't like it I probably would stop wearing skirts and tank tops and the like :-). But I'd also like to point out that unwanted attention, if it doesn't mean the same to the person who receives it as it does to the person who gives it but is accepted and cultivated by the one who receives it all the same, can be really unfair and hurtful to the one who gives it, and is essentially deceived. Phew... nice sentence, eh? :-) What I'm trying to say is that flirting and such is all good, but I think an essential prerequisite is that both people are more or less equally serious. Otherwise it's immoral for the one who knows s/he cares less to accept it without being honest about his/her real intentions (or lack thereof), and it can really hurt the one who cares more. On the other hand, I suppose most of us are adults, and thus responsible for our own actions, and if we choose to flirt with someone, well, then, we leave ourselves open to disappointments. It's still worth it, innit? *smile*
That's true, Susanne. But I still think Women has more limits in attention than boys. Of course there are exceptions but they are everywhere.